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If you have AS here is a list of things that you can do to help make your life more easy: 

• Tell the people around you and hope that they understand. If they don't understand, and start making your life hard, then get away from them as soon as you see those signs. People who don't understand why you act the way you do can cause major hassles for you. Being an Aspie, you need to try and keep people who are going to make your emotions run high with anger, sadness, etc., away from you. Once you've got rid of these people, never ever let them back in your life again. Try not to think of them and if you do just try and replace them with a TRUSTWORTHY person.

•  If you develop obsessions either with people, objects or an interest, it is ok as long as you keep that person, object or interest as a treat when you've been out all day or been doing well either at school, college or work. If your obsession is a person you're, and it can be a dangerous thing, you can't act too over powering. Somehow you must turn that obsessional feeling into a purely friendship basis feeling if you want that person to be your friend. Don't go and see them too often, don't write too often, and definitely don't repeatedly call them. You have to distance yourself from this kind of obsession because if there is proof with obsessions with people, things can go seriously wrong for you. As far as the objects or interests are concerned, try not to put them first. Just think of them as treats for doing good things in your life. It will make you liked and be thought of as a good person and will make you feel like your achieving something because you are doing what you enjoy doing at the end of the day.

• We are perceived differently by other people. This is always a bad aspect of being an Aspie. The names you get called are names like weird, freak, geek etc. There is a way that we can help ourselves though. First, start with eye contact. We don't like to make it, and that is ok. But there are times when you must or make eye contact because if you don't, it could cause problems. These times are when you are talking to someone face to face and it's just you and them. Times when you have to stand up for yourself against someone. Times when you are addressing a group either in school, college or work. These are the only times you have to force yourself to make eye contact with people. Next comes to the way we think. The world doesn't think the way we do, so we must try extra hard to pick up unwritten social cues that other people give out. Don't say much and don't say everything that comes in your head because some things that we think up, other people just wouldn't understand (and that's why we get called the names we do).

•  One last thing to remember though, never ever let having AS get you down. You are you not anyone else. You are the way you are for a reason, just like the rest of the people in the world. You aren't weird, freaks or geeks. That is just peoples assumptions, everyone is themselves and there's no such thing as weird or abnormal because there's no such thing as normal. Hold your head up high and make the best of the traits you have been given, you never know you could use them to your advantage :) Good Luck!

• Quit with the nagging every time they do something wrong or that you dislike. They aren't probably aware that you disliked what they have done because they haven't got the social skills to empathize.

• When you are upset emotionally about something and an AS person acts like they don't care and doesn't give you any sympathy try not to be offended and get angry at them because again it's hard for Aspies when emotions are at their strongest. They are emotional but they can't deal with other peoples well.

• Aspies aren't very 'lovey dovey' type of people so don't expect them to want to receive hugs etc because they shy away from affection. They prefer just to have their own space and if you're an affectionate person you must try very hard not to take it personally when they shy away from your hugs etc, it's not you it's just the way they are.

• If an Aspie chooses you as their 'safe person' act like one to them don't say to them 'get lost' or something along them lines when they have learnt to trust you. They see something in you and they have chosen you for a reason, you have what they are looking for at the time. You maybe what they'd like to be and will look at you as the person who will help them to be that way. Trouble is in this situation the 'safe person' tends to run away which can knock an Aspie so hard. One thing you should NEVER do to an Aspie is befriend them so that they learn to trust you and then a while after just drop them. Once you're involved you have to stay involved it's not fair if you don't.

• One thing that I think you should all know though. It may not seem like it but underneath Aspies do want to be social able but they just can't. They do try so hard to fit in and be the best they can be for people. It comes out wrong though to the rest of the world. But really they do try ever so hard and I know from being one that we put everything into whatever we do and try so hard for people. Don't put Aspies down because they have gifts that could help you one day. Two main rules though - Don't Nag: If you nag Aspies they just end up not being able to think straight and doing something else they'll be disliked for. - Let them be independent: Just because they have Aspergers syndrome doesn't mean they can't be independent, let them make their own decisions at least so that they will be learning from their own mistakes which they have to do. Also don't get at them if they make a decision that turns out to be a mistake because in their own mind they'll be beating themselves up about it without you starting on them too.

Well I hope I've been of some help to you with dealing with people with AS.

Good Luck!